A Parent's Guide to Technology & Screens

using tech for God's glory and our good

Tech is everywhere and increasing. As parents discipling our children, we need constant reminders and calibration to find health how we use technology. So we asked our good friend (a tech-talk pro) for help!

Nathan Sutherland is the President the non-profit, Flint & Iron, where he’s spent the better part of 5 years speaking to schools about tech use among teens. This guide is a distilled version of the information he shares. Nathan also hosts the weekly Gospel Tech Podcast which is a great resource on the topic.

7 Facts About Technology Parents Need to Know

We all need grace, especially in this area. As technology saturates our world more each year, we’re often on our heels in how to deal with it. Thankfully, there’s a growing body of research to help us make wise, informed choices regarding tech (Eph 5:15–16, Psalm 90:12). The 7 facts below are an overview of the research available on tech use among children. We hope it helps you to disciple your children and lead your family well in this area.

Fact #1

There are two kinds of tech

Tech is either "Tool Tech" or "Drool Tech" based on how it's consumed, what it's for, and its effects on the brain.

Tool Tech

Focused on creating

Useful for making, exploring, learning, and completing tasks.


Operates at the pace of real life, not hyper-visual or fast-paced.

Is user driven

Tool tech is actively run by the user, and facilitates richer interaction.

Drool Tech

Focused on consumption

Designed to keep users passively consuming as long as possible.

Faster than life

Operates at a pace faster and is more vivid than real life.

Incentive driven

Driven by artificial incentives to prolong engagement (points, levels, leaderboards, rewards).

Fact #2

The average teen spends 8 hours a day on drool tech*

Studies show that teens are consuming non-productive media for more than one third of every day. This includes video games, social networking apps and sites, streaming video content, and YouTube.1, 2

*This figure does not include homework.

Fact #3

Tech is everywhere

We don’t try to use it, digital tech is simply how we get life done. The ubiquity of tech means we must be more vigilant than ever.

"Most people use 4–6 big tech products before noon. "

— Nathan Sutherland, Host of the Gospel Tech Podcast

More addictive to younger users

“Facebook’s own North American marketing director, Michelle Klein, who told an audience in 2016 that while the average adult checks his or her phone 30 times a day, the average millennial, she enthusiastically reported, checks more than 157 times daily.”

—Shoshana Zuboff, The Age of Surveillance Capitalism

Fact #4

Multi-tasking is a myth

While it’s long been considered a trait worthy of praise, multitasking is actually a problem, not an improvement. We don’t do two things well, we just switch our attention between two tasks poorly. This slows us down.3

Fact #5

Time and content matter

The amount of time, as well as the type of tech, plays a role in our mental health.

Harmful effects of drool tech

Students who consumed more drool tech struggled to maintain focus and attention.4

Lack of attention reduces comprehension which contributed to lower test scores.5

Studies show a direct correlation between drool tech use and rates of depression in youth.6

Fact #6

Tech needs to be in public spaces

There is no evidence that tech in the bedroom has any benefits. In fact, there are numerous studies highlighting the trouble that comes from such independent tech use.7, 8, 9

Create tech-free zones

• Bedrooms
• Meal times
• Play times

Limit tech before bed

Reduced sleep time has been linked to screen time and shorter periods of sleep are a risk factor for depression and suicide.

Fact #7

Fun should be at the pace of real-life

Dr. Christakis, Director of the Center for Child Health, Behavior and Development at Seattle Children’s Research Institute, studied the overstimulation of brains of children under age 7. He found that the pace of a show matters as much as the time viewed and the content.

Mr. Rogers

0% more likely to experience inattention

Powder Puff Girls

60% more likely to experience inattention

Violent Programming

110% more likely to experience inattention

Dr. Christakis looked at the brains of young people who watched the above shows and found that by age 7, it dramatically affected their experience of inattention.10

next steps

Where do we go from here?

Habits around tech are tough to break, but not impossible. Here are some practical steps we recommend taking toward healthier tech use:

  • Audit your family's daily/weekly tech use
  • Discuss "Drool Tech vs. Tool Tech" with your children
  • Create a "Tech Use Plan" for your family that outlines times and places that will always be tech free
More Gospel Tech ResourcesListen to the Gospel Tech Podcast

Sources Cited

  1. Rideout, Victoria and Robb, Michael. “Screen Media Use: Overview.” The Common Sense Census: Media use by tweens and teens, p.23, Common Sense Media, 2019, New York NY.
  2. Rogers, Kristen. “US Teens Use Screens More Than Seven Hours a Day on Average—and That’s Not Including School Work.” CNN Health, 29 October 2019, www.cnn.com/2019/10/29/health/common-sense-kids-media-use-report-wellness/index.html.
  3. Hamilton, John. “Think You’re Multi-tasking? Think Again.” Morning Edition, NPR, 2 October 2008, www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=95256794.
  4. Mendoza, Pody, Lee. “The Effect of Cellphones on Attention and Learning: The Influences of Time, Distraction, and Nomophobia.” Computers in Human Behavior, vo. 86, pp. 52-60, September 2018, doi.org/10.1016/j.chb.2018.04.027.
  5. Beland, L.P. & Murphy, R. “Ill Communication: Technology, Distraction & Student Performance.” Centre for Economic Performance, no. 1350, May 2015, cep.lse.ac.uk/pubs/download/dp1350.pdf.
  6. Twenge, Joiner, Rogers, et al. “Increases in Depressive Symptoms, Suicide-Related Outcomes, and Suicide Rates Among U.S. Adolescents After 2010 and Links to Increased New Media Screen Time.” Clinical Psychology Science, vo. 6, no. 1, pp. 3-17, 14 November 2017.
  7. Kardaras, Nicholas. Glow Kids, pp. 60-61, St. Martin’s Press, 2016, New York NY.
  8. Glozier, Martiniuk, Patton, et al. “Short Sleep Duration in Prevalent and Persistent Psychological Distress in Young Adults: The DRIVE Study.” Sleep, v. 33, no. 9, pp. 1139– 1145, September 2010, https://academic.oup.com/sleep/article/33/9/1139/2454518.
  9. Zhai, Zhang, & Zhang. “Sedentary Behaviour and the Risk of Depression: A Meta- Analysis.” British Journal of Sports Medicine, v.49, no. 11, 15 May 2015.
  10. Christakis, Dmitri. “Media and Children.” TEDx Rainier, 28 December 2011, www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoT7qH_uVNo.