How to Help Your Children Find True Happiness

We love to make our kids happy. That feeling we get when they smile and say, “Thank you, Daddy. That was the best time, ever.” There’s a special kind of a delight a parent takes in their child’s delight. When they’re happy, we’re happy. As they get older, our culture teaches them what they “need”…


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Super-Hero Dads & Gospel-Centered Apologies

My daughter thinks I know everything.  Like everything. In her mind, there are no problems I can’t fix and no questions I don’t know the answer to. She’s 7 years old, and I am her hero.  I soak it up with everything I have.  Dad to the rescue She recently came to me and asked me to fix a toy of…


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The 7 Minute Conversation Challenge

“Most conversations take at least seven minutes to really begin.” —Sherry Turkle, Reclaiming Conversation The parent-child relationship is primarily a discipling relationship. And it’s hard to disciple someone without engaging them in real, meaningful conversation. Our hearts and souls were…


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How We Talk to Our Kids about Pornography

I looked at porn for the first time as a seven-year-old boy. While playing at a friend’s house, we went into his attic and found his dad’s stash of porn. I didn’t really know what I was looking at but I took a centerfold home with me and hid it in a drawer in my bedroom. A few years later I found a…


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When What You’re Doing Isn’t Working

I see a lot of similarities between parenting and sports. If you’ve played sports on any serious level, you know how much practice and strategy goes into preparing for a game. You have to have strategies that your coach gives you and plays that are at the ready just in case you need them. At every…


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3 Tips for Family Discipleship with Infants and Toddlers

When you first start telling people you’re going to have a baby, people start asking questions you’ll have to answer over and over again— “Do you know what you’re having?” and “Do you have a name picked out?” As for my wife and I, like many couples, we wanted to be “surprised” by the baby’s gender.…


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3 Things Your Adolescent Son Needs to Hear

I never heard the words I needed to hear most as a young man. As a result, I turned to the world to give me the value and “wisdom” I craved. I don’t blame my parents— they did the best they could with what was available to them. My dad passed away when I was 6 and my stepdad passed away a few years…


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Headache Now or Heartache Later?

The idea of rebuke grates against our flesh. I know that Selena and I neither like receiving it nor giving it… especially as parents! Still, if we are to live wisely in how we disciple our children (and each other), we must learn to not only accept the idea of rebuke, we must *embrace it* and…


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Trusting in God’s Precise Sovereignty

Consider something with me for a moment. You are the exact parents God gave to your exact children for this exact moment in time. Do you believe that? The word "exact" means "not approximated in any way; precise." Whether you're considering the current global crisis or looking at your average day,…


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